My friend of over a decade Prima Prima, threatened to break up with me if I don’t put words together about Professor turned Stripper formerly known as Dr Stella Nyanzi.
So I don’t know about you and your friends but I like my friend so am going to break a promise I made to myself to remain silent about the professor turned stripper and give my opinion.
So, there is this silently loud practice (for lack of a suitable word) around work places and even class (at least my class).
It goes something like this, when a man asserts his position, he is being determined and ambitious, but when a woman does, she is being a bitch with an unattractive attitude and is too emotional.
So what do women do? They either keep quiet so they can be liked ( which makes for the most number) or go ahead and unapologetically assert themselves and risk being known as, “the bitch on wheels”.
By the way, the name calling is by both men and women, so yes guys you are off the hook for this one.
Then the professor turned stripper, formerly known as Dr Stella Nyanzi happens and proves all those nay Sayers who think women are just a bunch of irrational beings without the requisite emotional ability to keep it together for a job or anything right.
So what do I do ?
She raises some valid questions.
1.why do we all too often glorify those who strip every day for the camera and get paid for it?
2. Are we judging her because she stripped or because she found an unconventional way to put her point across?
3. Is it her or is it the system that has pushed her to the limit?
4. She got her job back, so does that amplify the good old end justifying the means?
5. Has Uganda taught women activists, that the answers to their problems are tucked in their boobs and all they have to do is flash them and make them go away?
6. Should Anita Fabiola , she of the non existent hips who lost her job because she took nude photos and they ended up on the web, go to NTV and ask for her job back?
7. Are we proud of professor turned stripper? do we shun her? Or are all of us who systems have messed with at some point wishing we are her?
I won’t answer those, hopefully you will help me out in the comments section.
Am however, going to answer a question my future daughter would ask me had she been here, which would be something along the lines of, “when it comes to putting your point across, how far is too far? ”
To which I would say,
Young girls( yes this is about girls) in some countries aren’t even allowed to so much as go to school.
Boko Haram in 2014 abducted over 200 girls because they were in school.
Right here in some parts of the pearl of Africa, girls drop out of school the minute they reach puberty, because they can’t afford to maintain menstrual hygiene.
So when you get an opportunity to survive the odds and be a holder of a doctorate, you are not allowed to strip because you are mad.
Because you strengthen the forces that already think you don’t deserve to be educated or in an office.
Being an activist doesn’t mean you lose your dignity and no the answers to your problems are not safely tucked away in your boobs so don’t flash them for any boss of yours because those decisions come back to bite girls and women everywhere, some place where it really hurts.
So how far is too far when you want to put your point across? Right there where you are about to unbutton the first button on your blouse.